I’ve realized that lately small things upset me more and faster than before. A crying baby, a group of loud teenagers, indecided people, unstructured people, inflexible people, myself… sometimes I observe moms trying unsuccessfully to take control over their kids, or not trying at all, and think «my mom would have never allowed such a behaviour» or «in her shoes I would do this and that»… all of that followed by a «you couldn’t even handle your French Poodle…»
Here is the thing, in my own little world everything is about myself. And even when I’ve given the first place in my life to Christ, I still tend to «borrow» the control. In this parallel universe of singles we are not challenged to think about others needs in the same intensity as parents are. You’ll never hear of a single who hasn’t found the time to go to the toilet in a whole day. We don’t need to develop those kind of super powers. In the universe of singles results are sure (sort of), planning is easier and surprises are fewer; everything depends on you!! (sort of). And please don’t take wrong, I’m not saying that singleness is easy, we just face different situations, and wether you’re single or married, single parent or grandparent, God is at work in you. I’m just trying to put myself into someone else’s shoes.
This is the what if part. What if God created family so we can learn to love unconditionaly?, what if God created family so we learn to deal with people differnt from us?, what if God created family to teach us that life is not only about us? And, what if God created family to mold us into his image and make us holy? Marriage and parenting are constant reminders that we are not perfect, there’s someone always watching (in a non creapy way), and that we belong to someone. Singles don’t have that input naturally, we need to make a conscious effort to remember that we are not perfect, we are rolemodels for the younger generations and that we belong to a bigger family, God’s family.
What if we, long term and temporary singles, adopt a family and bless them with a unconditional love and friendship? Allow in your inner circle people different from you, pleople with kids, for example. #adoptafamily #adoptapensioner #adoptasingle
For more about this topic see «Let diversity in» (listen to me CEOs, I’m a language teacher category)